Our Philosophy & Why We’re Here
I’m Keith Kithsiri, founder and project partner of Silver Ridge Assisted Living and Memory Care. I know from first-hand experience about the challenges that caregivers go through when a parent or loved one is diagnosed with Alzheimer’s. Both of my own parents were diagnosed with it within six months of one another, and it was a life-changing experience for me – and for them.
Because I’ve been fortunate with my career successes, I had the financial ability to care for my folks in ways that many people cannot. I actually quit my job for more than a year, and moved to be with them. I took them on trips so they could go back to places they had been before, places they weren’t sure they remembered. I was proud to help them experience these memories all over again. I’m grateful that we were able to share a lot of precious times together in their final years.
However, this experience was also the most frustrating time of my life. It’s a profoundly difficult experience when Alzheimer’s happens to an individual and to a family. There’s nothing else like it.
It’s terribly, terribly hard.
I was overwhelmed to learn how difficult it is to take care of someone who has lost function in the part of the brain that controls logic. People with Alzheimer’s can usually tell you every tiny detail of something that happened to them when they were 18, like when they joined the army or got married – or even what the girl who sat next to them on a bus in 1942 was wearing -- but they can’t tell you whether they’ve been to the bathroom this morning or what they ate five minutes ago. Family members and caregivers get extremely frustrated, and sometimes, ANGRY.
You just can’t believe this smart person can’t tell you the simplest of things.
That’s why it takes a very, very special person to care for an aging parent or for residents in a memory care unit. It’s the hardest job in the world. You have to be the type of person who can let go of the logic and stay calm, no matter what happens, so that you can HELP these people. You can’t get mad and disrespect them because of something they can’t help; something that is happening to their brains. It’s not their fault.
Because of my own experience with my parents, I found myself driven to create a place that would provide the kind of continual, compassionate care to individuals who are in situations like my parents’. Silver Ridge is the fruition of MY JOURNEY/this mission. Beyond the small, homey feel of our building and an incredibly low caregiver-to-resident ratio, what really makes Silver Ridge special is our PEOPLE.
That’s because I know what to look for when I hire someone as a caregiver at Silver Ridge. I can recognize those special qualities -- the patience and compassion -- that a person has to have. And I insist that every caregiver here has it.
Kindness and compassion aren’t just vague concepts or emotions. They are tangible things. When you walk into a room, you can quickly feel it when these qualities are present. You can sense it when they are a part of a place; you can see it on people’s faces and you can tell when it’s written in their hearts.
At Silver Ridge, it’s practically written on the walls.
We treat every resident like they are cherished members of our own families. Our caregivers bond with our residents and love them like family. I won’t have it any other way. I would not have entrusted the care of my own parents to any place or to anyone where this wasn’t the case – and I know you won’t either.
It makes me feel good to know that we are helping other families give their parents what I gave mine. At Silver Ridge, our residents are nurtured, respected and loved, continually and compassionately. They’re cared for like my sister and I cared for our parents.
It’s as simple as this.
Silver Ridge is a special place.
You should come see us.
- Keith Kithsiri
New Owner: Durga Prasad Mekala, M.D.